We both think it was rude and inconsiderate. It doesn't always matter how you were raised. She actually texted me on mothers day to tell me she was thinking about me and how unfair it is that I've been unable to have a child. with her son and DD's friends.Okay, sorry, maybe I misworded things or misspoke. DRAMA) They never really speak harshly to one another now. He said if they could not recognize Mothers Day after all we have done for them, then they might as well not recognize Fathers Day either. My brother in law once referred to his two granddaughters (then 5 and 9) as “fucking little bitches” when asked why he didn’t spend more time with them. "But if BM's BF can be there, why not you?" They talk on a couple times a week, mostly about DD's health issues, new car, etc. We have talked about counceling, but their aren't ANY Christian counsellors near where we live.

Seems that he saw it as her trying to stir things up. You can believe her mother probably had something to do with it. New to site. I am only 15 yrs. She was 17 when we married. This commenting section is created and maintained by a third party, and imported onto this page. In the beginning I asked lots of questions like, "When was the last time you talked to her?"

I HOPE that when SD is adult, she'll appreciate the time and space I gave, but I'm not sure she's been raised to be quite that well rounded. Believe it or not, I was online shopping for BM, her son, her mom and her best friend, when I found this site. But, last year she did not even call. It's not that I'm upset my father moved on; I know things can't work between my parents, and I accept it. They usually do.I ave an adult step daughter and she has her ways of getting her digs in but not that openly and obvious. And both our children were grown when we married.

He has now told her she is wrong that she didn't do something that she doesn't have to do. (((((MOON PIE))))I think it's up to the step-child to make the acknowledgment or not, whatever makes them comfortable. It is just not proper for her to act that way at her age. Instead of her past efforts being appreciated, she is getting grief for the time she doesn't go out of her way. Should I even acknowledge Mother’s Day/Fathers Day? My husband is a narcissist, he doesn’t treat his kids very well (2nd husband, kids by first wife), when they forget him on Father’s Day he goes berserk and treats me like shit. He wishes things were VERY different. She is not obligated. ... Last year she didn't send me any kind of card for Mother's Day. I'm not one to hold things back from him. That is why I aksed the question. He always agrees with what I am saying at home, but when he is there with his sweet angel, things just don't happen.

As a step-daughter I treat my step-father like a dad but do not talk with my step-mother at all given my poor relationship with my birth-father. She always comes over for Fathers Day and gives her Dad a gift but never has given me one. But, I thought it was nice of her to send me a card and call me on Mothers Day. A new daughter in-law could be an improvement to your son. TRY not to read her the riot act or punish her for forgetting you. I actually feel guilty for being so selfish. Posted Apr 09, 2012 Don't let is bother you, she will be the loser.This is touch and go. The can be very conniving if you know what I mean. “Happy Mother’s Day,” or even “I love you,” thumbed into a tiny Smartphone screen or typed into an email doesn’t match the roar of silence the rest of the year. He promised her in the beginning that he wouldn't get me into things until she was ready. Mother’s Day is not a happy occasion for mothers whose children reject them. I asked my husband what he thought about it and he said he would not allow his daugher to do that to me. Ultimately, I don't mind DH and BM being friends and I admire DH for including her little boy. The fact that your husband called her and reprimanded her and told her to call you, made it into a bad situation. She is single adult and never been married with no children. Talked to her that day and everything, just forgot it was her birthday. She still acts like a child sometimes. Stepdad was all for husband seeing her, but her mom,not so much. If all goes well, you likely will never have to worry about mothers day. I certainly don't want to force myself on stepdaughter and would hate to put my husband into a position that made our already horrible situation any worse. Her father asked her why she did not at least acknowledge it with a phone call. I am in the middle and very uncomfortable. Answer these questions and e-mail me at always_second_best23@yahoo.comYou need to focus on the most important things that you said "I did not raise her and I am not her mother. [Advice Request] Close • Posted by just now. you have been there.....you know this.Or maybe, have you tought about, that maybe she is having a hard time right know and the last thing she will think is "call you or sending you" something?????????????????? Monday we decided to make the 8ish hour drive back to our home state and quarantine there instead for a few months. That's one major reason I'm here. ?Let her do what she wants to do and don't whine to your husband...you know better than that! It seems to me like she makes an effort and I am probably too nieve(misspelled?). If you have come to terms with your children’s rejection, and moved on with your life, … How long is TOO long for me to be non-factor. Husband's Daughter Doesn't Acknowledge My Existence! A birthday, anniversery?